After my fiance died in a car accident we were in a month before our wedding I swore off dating thinking I wouldn't find anyone who would accept me for me. Then I met two other guys and my world begun to be whole again or so I thought. They tried hard to understand and deal with the ups and downs of my Diabetes but they just couldn't hang. Again my heart was broken but it was cool I respected their feelings and continued my friendship with one of them(lets call him John), since the other guy no longer desired to be friends.

So John call me today and say he wants to be more than just friends and wants to know if I want the same thing. My heart say don't take the chance and get hurt again. But my mind say take the chance it could be a chance at real love. When I was just in the hospital he was there with me everyday from the time visting hours started until they were over. He has really been there for me. Do I date him or not.? What is the probablility that this is my secound chance at real love? Could he have learn to deal from being friends over the years? If only I could see into the future to see how it turns out.

To date or not to date John that is my question. Just what's on my mind this Sunday afternoon.

-Missy-

Sorry to hear about your fiance. I would say go for it give John a 2nd chance. The first time he could have been just scared but now he has gotten over it. It is better to have love and lost then to not have love at all. So I say yes date him and see where it goes.

go for it. I mean diabetes is scary to watch and so it might have scared him at first but now he has been around it more and is understanding it is not as hard to understand as what he once thought

My wife, as you see beside me in the picture, is the biggest help and support to me with my diabetes.  It sounds to me like you've found someone who is willing to accept you for who you are and what you have.  As my dad always used to say "faint heart never won fair lady".  I suppose in your case, "faint heart never won good lad"!  Sometimes you need to take the chance, and that chance may lead you to someone who you need.  Its hard to make a decision on something like this.  I wish you the best, and remember to take your time.  Someone who loves you will understand if you're somewhat trepidatious.  

Audevourahn at April 29, 2010 at 10:48 PM

My wife, as you see beside me in the picture, is the biggest help and support to me with my diabetes.  It sounds to me like you've found someone who is willing to accept you for who you are and what you have.  As my dad always used to say "faint heart never won fair lady".  I suppose in your case, "faint heart never won good lad"!  Sometimes you need to take the chance, and that chance may lead you to someone who you need.  Its hard to make a decision on something like this.  I wish you the best, and remember to take your time.  Someone who loves you will understand if you're somewhat trepidatious.  

John and I have been dating for 12 days now. He seems different now than he was before. He is more accepting of me and my diabetes. He has seen what happens when my BGs are high and when they are starting to go low, but he has never seen what happens when they are low and that I was afraid for him to see. But he saw it today and had to act. Because of trying to catch up on school work, and work 2 part time jobs I did a bolus on my pump for my lunch (BG was 80) and started to eat then got a call from my boss and did not finish eating (I forgot all about finishing my lunch). Did some more school work, washed clothes, and watched a movie. 3 hours later John comes home I am having a seizure.

He is scared out his mind not knowing what is going on and what to do. So he calls 911. Come to find out that my BG was 8! So I have him calling my ma telling her what happened. So she is yelling at me, and he is also. He is like you have to pay attention!

I am typing this from my hospital bed.But I beleive as you said someone who loves you will understand... and I think he do.

23 days together now.  Glad that you gave me a 2nd chance. Ant to those who told Missy to go for it Thanks!

I am so happy for you guys! John you are great with how you handled that situation with the low I know how scary that can be but you did great and missy I am glad he got the second chance he seems really nice

That is soooooo sweet! I think I need a bolus..........

JDM.... That is so sweet I might need to bolus.... I think that is my new slogan!   Love it

ohh that is too funny the things that we as diabetics find funny!!! way cool one though JDM

Im glad you both liked it. I just say random stuff, and sometimes it makes a funny!

Guys I asked Missy to marry me.

JDM... That is soooooo sweet! I think I need a bolus.......... funny one.

Well John did she give you an answer? What did she say??

Did she say yes??? oh my gosh missy say yes!!!

Missy, John what was the answer inquiring minds want to know. Well ok we are a little nosy. We are hoping it was a yes!!!

I had to think it over and I told John my answer was...

ctjlovely at July 9, 2010 at 10:21 PM

Missy, John what was the answer inquiring minds want to know. Well ok we are a little nosy. We are hoping it was a yes!!!

Well inquire no more she said either yes or no.

ctjlovely at July 7, 2010 at 3:57 PM

Well John did she give you an answer? What did she say??

 I did I said YES, YES, YES.  

It pays to take chances.

Missy at July 9, 2010 at 10:46 PM

It pays to take chances.

 

You said yes girl and that is awsome!! I am so happy for you both. for you to have found a great person who loves you and will take you highs and lows ha ha lol just thought about that statement. and for john to have accecpted you for exactly who you are he is so lucky to get such a great girl with all you hllve to offer and john well your a guy so I am assuming you are a cutie in her eyes ( good plus for you ) and well you got a great girl!! no kidding aside you hassyove been given a second chance and take it and fly with!! not that  being said yyopt will makw gfreat ccolple couples!!